By: Tim Myers |
3 Tips On What To Do If Your Loved One Has A Problem With Drugs Or Alcohol
OK so the person you love has a problem with drugs or alcohol. What do you do? First thing is stop freaking out. Nothing great was ever achieved by freaking out. Did Paul Revere run around Boston saying, “We have a problem! The Red Coats are coming! We’re gonna die!”
No! He calmly put a light in the old north church and everyone came together to help. So that’s what you need to do, stay calm and follow these 3 tips.
#3 Say, “If You Need Help I’m Here For You”
Don’t say, “If you don’t get help you’re gonna die just like Uncle Larry!” That may be helpful at some point but let’s face facts. Your kid knows how Uncle Larry died and this disease doesn’t care. Us drug addicts and alcoholics are willing to die to get high.
Simply tell your loved one, “If You Need Help I’m Here For You”. Change must come from within. The only thing you can say, is the only thing you should say. This lets your loved one know that there is a safe place they can go for help. Doing this in a calm and kind way will increase the likely hood that they will seek you out when they are ready.
#2 STOP ENABLING THEM!
If Jimmy doesn’t have gas money, Jimmy needs to spend less money on crack. Guess what, people who are not drug addicts don’t spend all their gas money on drugs. If Tina needs her car insurance paid, Tina needs to get a job. Do not pay for anything that your loved one is capable of doing for themselves.
You know why Bambie’s Mom is dead? Because she never taught Bambie how to behave near a clearing. Watch the movie. Bambie’s Mother enabled the shit out of her! Who died, Babies Mom! Teach your children that you are not a source of income for them. This disease hurts the whole family and you need to make sure you don’t end up in harms way. Money is like oxygen for the addict, if you cut off the money they will be forced to make a decision as the whether or not they want to quit sooner rather than later. Every dollar you give Jimmy and Tina is another day they will be using. If they need help with money for treatment, then you can help.
#1 Call a Professional
You are not a pro. Call someone who is. If your house was on fire would you call your cousin Mitch the accountant? No! You’d call Mark the fireman from down the block. Just because your Great Aunt Nancy thinks she knows everything doesn’t means she knows anything about substance abuse. Call 1-844-I-Can-Change and speak to people who have a degree focused on helping alcoholics recover from this disease. Get professional opinions, you don’t have to go through this alone, we can help and we can all change.Listen to Podcast Episode
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